How To Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself


When things go wrong and it seems like absolutely nothing goes your way,

You’re getting kicked in life from all sides,

There is nothing easier than to start blaming everyone around you and to start feeling sorry for your self.

Today I got overwhelmed by all events going on in my life and for a moment, I lost control and let the emotions drive me.

I was asking myself why is the universe continually testing me and pushing me over the edge?

Why people in my life are making things so difficult and why do I struggle with so many things over and over. Like I haven’t learnt anything so far?!

I couldn’t hold the pain what was build up over the past few days, weeks and months, there were proper crocodile tears.

Then my son came to me and hugged me, trying to wipe my tears and kiss me. There it was, one little moment of gratitude for my little boy

I started to focus on it and didn’t want to let go. It was like my life vest.

I remembered something I heard from one of my mentors, that the universe does not test me, it REFLECTS me!

It’s only up to me if I keep feeling self-pity about everything or if I do something about it.

So I did, I started putting even more attention on the things I am grateful for in my life.

It’s impossible to feel self-pity and gratitude at the same time.

While self-pity is about thinking, “I deserve better,” gratitude is about thinking, “I have more than I need.”

There are so many things I am grateful for in my life and the more I was thankful for the better I started to feel.

We all have moments, but we also have the power to change our feelings in those moments.

We just have to recognise it and set our attention to it right away!

And that’s how it’s done.

So next time when something bad happens, don’t ask your self…

Why is this happening to me?!

Because nothing is happening to you.

Everything happens for you!

Once you realise how powerful this is, you are halfway there.

If bad things didn’t happen, you wouldn’t be able to recognise good things in your life and appreciate them.

My life was like a roller coaster, but for some reason, I was able to keep a positive attitude no matter what was happening.

I wasn’t always positive, but I wanted to believe that after each storm better, sunny days would come.

There were moments when I was losing hope, sometimes it took days, sometimes even weeks, but I was always aware of one thing…

Things could be a lot worse!

And that was something that gave me strength to keep going.

You may think, that is easy to say but what if you’re dealing with something significant.

My whole life was fucking significant!

I hit rock bottom so many times, but I always stood up again and kept fighting.

Once you are at the deepest bottom, there is only way out of there, UP!

Even though my life wasn’t easy, I take it as a blessing and journey to be able to serve and support people who need me.

I grew up up in a very poor family. We were on the edge of poverty. Five people in 2 rooms (not bedrooms only two rooms), no bathroom at all and the toilet was outside.

My stepfather was alcoholic and sexually abused me when I was 11 years old.

At 17 years, I tragically lost my best friend and shortly after that my stepfather kicked me out of our home.

I became homeless for the very first time when I was 17 and then again when I was 34 and the third time nearly just a year and a half ago.

It was right after I escaped a toxic, abusive relationship and left my son’s father.

After my ex-partner moved out, my landlord didn’t want to accept a single mom as a tenant and sent me a letter for me to evict my flat.

This time was tough, I didn’t have enough money to feed my child and there was no one to help, my family live in a different country, so it was all on me.

During my life, I moved 22 times.

I build five business, some of them didn’t work out, some I left behind and some I am still building.

I left my country when I was 21 years old and lived in the USA for six successful year’s but then…

I lost my house.

When I returned to the Czech Republic, I got myself in huge debt.

I made an investment which came out as a scam, and I lost absolutely everything…and I even ended up with criminal charges.

Wrong decision and trusted the wrong people.

This is just scratching the surface with my stories, there was so much drama in between and lots of kicks from life, but I can honestly say…

I am grateful for every single one of them.

It makes me a person who I am today.

Every single loss, every single person who hurt me or betrayed me, taught me something. Life lessons are the most valuable treasures we carry with us.

If you look at it from a positive side of view, it’s always better to go for gratitude about what you still have rather than crying about what you lost.

As long as you have your own life, you have all you need. Everything else can be replaced or fixed.

One thing I am most grateful for is my son.

If I didn’t lose everything I had, I wouldn’t have left my county and moved to the UK where I live right now.

If I didn’t move, I wouldn’t have met the father of my child and I wouldn’t have my wonderful son.

If I didn’t have my son, I wouldn’t have my ex-partner still in my life…I would probably be 100 % less stressed, but also I wouldn’t have learnt how to stand up for myself.

I wouldn’t have learnt to get as strong as I have become now.

There were so many people in my life taking advantage of me because I let them. This last one was so evil that it finally took all the power in me to fight back, to fight for myself for my son.

You see, if my ex wasn’t so evil, I would let him get away with everything like I always have in the past, because I wouldn’t be able to handle it.

But this time I wasn’t willing to take it anymore.

I had to do something about it.

I learnt how to have control over my life and wouldn’t give anyone else that power.

So instead of crying…

Why I have this person in my life?

I am grateful.

I am so fucking grateful for every single kick from him.

I am so grateful for every nasty message I got.

I am so grateful for every single moment when he let me down.

I finally learn to count only on myself and I don’t care what he does to me anymore!

Yes, I still struggle because I have feelings, but I don’t let myself get carried away for long.

There were days I couldn’t understand why I have to go through so much pain with the father of my son, but now I know it was actually a blessing.

He made me tough!

I don’t obsess with self-pity anymore, because that doesn’t serve me in my life.

You can always turn your pain into power!

Today I am not a victim. I am SURVIVOR.

That is what I choose to be.

I choose to be happy and grateful to the father of my son that he gave me the most incredible gift in my life.

My wonderful son Samuel and my most valuable life lessons.

If you are struggling right now, turn back to your power and take it as a gift, not a tragedy.

With all my heart, I believe that we are here on this planet for a reason. We are here to learn and spread love. Remember, you are never alone.

The Universe has always got your back! No matter what.

Love Lucie


About The Author:

Lucie Hanzlickova ~ Accredited Empowerment Coach for Women and an Online Marketer

Lucie found her purpose in supporting other women. Her mission is to help women to unlock their female power to create the life they deserve by giving them the tools and clarity to change their mindset.
She believes that everyone has a huge potential to thrive in life or business, and she’s empowering individuals to create a freedom lifestyle.

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