Maybe you feel like you don’t fit in.
Maybe you feel like things should feel better, easier.
Maybe you feel like something is off.
Maybe you feel this pit in your stomach that you were made for more than this.
Or maybe, like me, you woke up one day and looked around only to realise you had everything you thought you should, but nothing that truly made you happy.
Like you finished the checklist that the world told you would make you happy, and you’re here, and it doesn’t feel like you thought it would.
Changing your story is up to you. It’s simple, but not always easy. But the first step is deciding. Decide you want to change your story. Change your story, and you can change your life.
In first step, you also have to admit that you want something different. And honestly, if you’ve spent a lifetime getting here – that can be hard. Giving up everything you’ve worked for isn’t easy because there’s been so much effort behind it.
But here’s the thing.
It all led you here. Nothing else could’ve happened. Because it didn’t.
Everything you’ve been through has led you to this exact moment, for a reason.
Every orchestrated moment has helped you to become who you were meant to be. But to step fully into that version of you, you have to accept every, and I mean EVERY single thing you have been through. You have to stop judging, stop being ashamed of, & stop feeling guilty for your past.
Let it ALL go.
That’s step two. Letting go. My favourite, life changing, secret step. Letting go. Definitely not easy, or you would have done it already. Who wants to hold on to the past anyway? But we aren’t willing to sit in the emotion and deal with the feelings we have in order to truly, once and for all let it go.
It’s forgiving yourself. Forgiving your past. To the point where you are honestly & extremely grateful for everything you’ve been through.
The extra weight that made you hide yourself behind clothes, the relationship that suddenly & unexpectedly fell apart, the job or the boss you hated, the part of you that wanted to please everyone else and looked externally for love to fill you up.
The decision you wish you would have made sooner, the people you let take advantage of you, every time you didn’t stand up for yourself, and everything you wish you would have said, or could have said.
All of the things that carry heavy weight. All of the things that make you want to scream, cry, hide, and dig yourself into a hole versus having to deal with them and feel the emotion so that you can finally let them go.
Let it ALL go.
Close your eyes. I want you to imagine that you could be and do anything you want in life. That you are the happiest, healthiest, most fulfilled version of yourself.
Now tell me, does that version of you have time to hold onto the past? (hint: no)
It’s time to let it go. It’s time to let it go so you can change. It’s time to let it go so you can create a new story.
Now, the third step is deciding what you DO want. This is also not an easy step because most people often answer this question first with what they don’t want. Well, what you don’t want has gotten you here. If you want something different, you have to do something different.
Again, close your eyes. Imagine anything is possible. If you woke up tomorrow in a new story, what would that include? How do you want to feel? What kind of people do you want around you?
What kind of person do you want to be? What kind of career do you want? What would make you truly happy?
Here’s the secret. You need to allow yourself to believe anything is possible, and that you deserve anything and everything to allow some of these answers to come through. Your mind is fighting your heart and telling you to pick something safer, something smaller, or it might be telling you that it’s not possible to change at all.
Trust that your heart can never make a wrong decision, that all of the answers are inside you. That only you can decide what’s right for you.
Let yourself imagine, let yourself dream. Write down what you want, if there were no limits, if no one would be mad at you, if you weren’t afraid, and if you couldn’t mess it up.
Keep working at your list, it might take time. It might take letting go of rules and restrictions and limitations that you used to fight for. Keep deciding what you want and let yourself dream big.
Now the last step is the fun part. Work towards what you want. Decide to create your future. Make decisions that you would make if you were your future self in your future life. Fill your life with as much joy as you can, every day. Focus on yourself, because the pursuit of yourself is the ultimate journey. You will find the answers you seek.
These four steps take time. But it starts with one decision.
One day, or day one – you decide.
If you find yourself in a story that doesn’t feel like yours, I hope you take the chance to write a new one.
I hope you stand up for yourself, know your worth, and choose yourself first. Over, and over again.
I hope you have the courage to walk away from what’s no longer meant for you. And I hope you decide to change your story. It’s one decision away. What will you decide?
About the Author:
Vicky is an Accredited Intuitive Mindset & Energy Coach.
Vicky does 1:1 coaching & runs retreats around the world.
Vicky helps her clients let go of who they thought they needed to be so they can be who they were always meant to be, to guide them back home to themselves. She coaches women to re-connect with their true self, so they can stop living their life for someone else and start living the life they desire. Vicky is super passionate about her work and loves to help her clients design their dream life.
You can find her at:
Website: www.vickylincolncoaching.com
Instagram: @vickylincolncoaching
